This learning activity will provide resources for describing, developing, and managing your personality (i.e., relational style: thinking; doing, feeling; and relating to others) against the backdrop of various people puzzles (e.g., extrovert/introvert; project/people oriented; thinking/feeling/doing, etc.). Interestingly, our interpersonal arena could be described as a bumper-human world as various behavioral pressures continually bless, bother, and bruise us. Understanding that œpersonality pressure is a felt experience that often reveals what makes us tick and get ticked off with different people empowers us to become personality-, emotionally-, and relationally-wise. It comes as no surprise to realize that how differently we think, feel, and relate will influence our relationships, even the people-helping relationship. Keep in mind that it really does not matter what your personality is. What matters most is that you learn to control it through appropriate resources and best fit strategies rather than allowing your personality to be in control.

You will begin to control your personality, and solve people puzzles, by learning to describe the œMe You See, develop a crisp picture of the œMe You Want to See, and determine best fit strategies to become the œMe You Want to Be within the company of a mentor you have asked to help you become the œMe that best reflects God’s best version of œMe.

As a pastoral counselor, controlling or managing your personality or relational style within a helping relationship is called demonstrating fit (i.e., showing a counselee that you intend to achieve relational alignment with his/her style in a manner that validates his/her concerns: Kollar, 2011, pp. 95“6; e.g., which involves talking and listening in ways to maximize the presence of the personal: Stewart, 2012 Bridges not Walls, p. 32).

Anticipate applying what you learn to a counseling relationship with a pre-determined care-seeker from the case studyCrossroads: A Story of Forgiveness.

The following sections will guide you through the preparation and submission process of SMPP Phase 2: Developing and Managing My Relational Style Report:

? Components of Phase 2: Developing and Managing My Relational Style¦¦¦ p. 2

? Phase 2 Directions¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦¦ pp. 2“4

? Tips for Successful Development and Management of your Relational Style¦ p. 4

Components of Phase 2: Developing and Managing My Relational Style

(Solving My People Puzzle: Phase 2 is due by 11:59 p.m. (ET) on Sunday of Module/Week 3)

Correct file name for word document (i.e., PACO500_SMPP2_[StudentInitials])

Cover Sheet


Table of Contents

Mentor’s DISC & M-BTI Confirmation

My M-BTI Report

SMPP Phase 2 Questions/Answers

References (at least 8 sources will be cited; place References on its own page)

Grading Rubric (on its own page)

Phase 2 Directions:

In Phase 2 of Solving My People Puzzle, you will determine best fit strategies for the development and management of your relational style. Directions are provided below.

Now that you have described your DISC relational style (œThe Me I See) and developed a crisp picture of œThe Me I Want to See, refer to that material as necessary to complete Phase 2. If necessary, add to or clarify Phase 1 Report before beginning Phase 2. For example, Phase 2 includes the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator assessment (i.e., œHumanMetrics). After completing that assessment, you may want to add further insight to your Phase 1 description. Review Kollar’s discussion of the M-BTI (ch. 17) after taking the assessment.

Identify and solicit a wise person for mentorship. This person should be willing to help you secure and support your personal and professional growth and development. Initially, it will only involve helping you complete this assignment:

On the first day of the module/week, email this person requesting partnership in completing this assignment. Since language is everything in the development of an effective mentorship, ask him to take 2 free assessments (include directions & links below) and to email confirmation of completion with a concise identification of his/her DISC (e.g., I have a dominant cautious temperament: DC) and M-BTI (e.g., I am typed as an extrovert who prefers to think from the gut and not have more than one or two things unfinished at a time: ENTJ) indexes. In so doing, a common language will be acquired to help you both effectively engage a mentor/mentee role. Ask for email confirmation to be returned within 2 days of receipt.

A free 10-minute DISC assessment (abridged) may be taken through the following link: When the site opens:

A short, free M-BTI assessment may be taken through the following link:

Enlarge your conversation by comparing/contrasting your DISC description with shortened version of the M-BTI assessment (i.e., œHumanMetrics). Self-administer this assessment, capture the brief report, and paste it on to the page after your mentor’s report. To go immediately to this free assessment, click on Click on œDO IT button. Your HumanMetrics score will look like the material pasted below. Explore the web links provided to explain more about your type.

Your Type is


Introverted Intuitive Thinking Judging

Strength of the preferences %

67 25 50 67

INTJ type description by D.Keirsey

INTJ Career Choices by Jung Career Indicatorâ„¢

INTJ type description by J. Butt and M.M. Heiss

At least 1 citation is required from the HumanMetrics assessment.

Qualitative analysis of your type formula

You are:

distinctively expressed introvert

moderately expressed intuitive personality

moderately expressed thinking personality

distinctively expressed judging personality

After the œHumanMetrics is completed, compare your DISC profile with the MBTI through the following web site:

Concisely answer the following questions in your Phase 2 template. Support your answers by remaining closely connected to the readings and assessment information according to APA Guidelines.

SMPP Phase 2 Questions (review Tips at end before answering questions):

1. How will you demonstrate fitness with each of the core DISC styles?

“ Remain alert to your relational style challenges as you demonstrate fit with potential challenges of each style

“ Concise strategy identifies alignment needs and resources/adjusts appropriately

“ Appropriate application of spiritual formation truths, insights, and techniques

“ Satisfactorily support major points through current APA Guidelines. At least 1 citation for each core style (i.e. 4 = D, I, S, C).

2. How will you communicate and connect with a predetermined care-seeker from the case study?

“ Identify care-seeker from case study

“ Identify care-seeker’s style with brief description (i.e. at least 1 citation from How to Solve the People Puzzle

“ Demonstration of fit should provide evidence of care-seeker’s potential strengths, shortcomings, interpersonal challenges (at least 1 citation from Why Don’t We Listen Better?) and clearly address with appropriate resources

“ Satisfactorily support major points through current APA Guidelines

3. How will you communicate and connect with your mentor?

“ Mentor identification, confirmation, and assessment information provided

“ Strategy for communicating and connecting with mentor should provide evidence of DISC & M-BTI relational style alignment

“ Satisfactorily support major points through current APA Guidelines. At least I citation required.

Tips for a successful development and management of your relational style:

Use what you have learned in Phase 1 to complete Phase 2.

Remain closely connected to asses